Silvia scolded Arthur for not putting the groceries away before the frozen foods began to defrost. Arthur turned around shooting shot Silvia a darting glare. He was tending to their little girl’s cut. She fell off her bike right before the couple got home from the grocery store.
This was not unusual. Silvia constantly told Arthur what to do and when to do it. At times, Arthur felt as if he was a robot. Arthur realized this belittling over the years wore down his strength.
Silvia had an opinion for everything, how to do laundry, how every project should be run, and even how you should live your life. And, don’t ever ride in a car with her. She’ll tell you how to drive, too.
Silvia always thought she knew the right way. This controlling aspect was her way of creating certainty.
Controlling equals certainty. This is a scarcity mindset.
What Silvia was really doing was living in a constant state of fear. She was afraid that if something did not go according to how she wanted, she could not handle what would come her way.
Arthur finally put his foot down. He told Silvia that if they don’t start working together to make decisions about their household and parenting that he would leave. He gave her six months to identify ways to change her behavior.
Over this time period, she began letting her husband take on more of a role at home and with their child. At work, she let co-workers take on more responsibility without interference from her.
Silvia no longer felt she had to do it all herself. She became more energized and more excited for her day.
She recognized that the only behavior she can control was herself. She learned to respond to circumstances instead of reacting to them. Instead of controlling, let go of the expectations of a predicted outcome.
What Silvia discovered was a new way to live and work. As she let go of her controlling nature, she experiences more joy and abundance.
If you want abundance, let go of a certain outcome and allow something even better to flow you way. The results will blow your mind.
Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!
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