The 2 D’s of Disappointment

Anytime a new task came across Tim’s desk, he buried himself on the internet to figure out how to do it. After all, Tim prided himself that he could always figure something new out. Yet simultaneously he would spend five minutes researching then succumb to the “browser effect”. This is when you have some many browser windows open that you’re not even sure where you started.

Then you realize that you’ve wasted two hours getting nothing done. Admit it, at some point, you can relate to this. In the end, this only became a distraction – “D” #1.

Soon, Tim begins to wonder if he can handle the big project meeting coming up. His stomach turns into knots. He’s binging on junk food to make it through the day. He starts to doubt (“D” – #2) his ability to get anything done in a timely manner.

The big client day arrives. Tim walks in a sweaty mess from anxiety on whether he’s prepared enough. The one hour meeting continues for almost three hours hammering outside the different sides of the contract negotiation. Both teams are ravished hungry. Tim thinks all went well.

The next day Tim’s boss calls him into his office. With a calming voice, this boss, Gerald says what’s going on? The client said you spoke gibberish for almost three hours. This was a million dollar contract. We are going to let you go. Tim’s disappointment sets in.

When distraction and doubt combine, it may lead to disappointing outcomes.

To stop this in its tracks, acknowledge when you feel doubtful, don’t be afraid to ask questions or ask for help. When you catch yourself in distraction mode, ask yourself, what’s my priority right now? Then refocus your attention. At some point, we’ve all had doubt or have been distracted, acknowledge what’s happening and redirect your attention.

Wishing you an abundant, joyful and prosperous day!