How you want to be treated is a laughable irony. We often get upset when someone doesn’t treat us they way we want to. We even get pissed off about it sometimes. Ok, a lot of the time. Why did John do that? What did Mary say that? Yet, few of us teach others how to treat us. We’ll complain about it until we are blue in the face yet don’t ever say anything. Here’s a few lessons on how we let others treat us poorly, how we allow it to happen and how to deal with it.

First, when someone upsets you or attacks you – do you speak up if someone upsets you? Do you tell the other person how it came across to you? Perhaps what they intended was very different than how the words or actions came out. Or, you are letting them know how the overtly offended you. They may not even realize they crossed the line unless you tell them.

Lesson #1: Speak up

Second, how do you treat yourself? If you constantly put yourself down. Do you compare yourself and play the victim role? Or, say, I’ll never be able to obtain that despite yet you’re a PhD with tons of experience. That’s exactly how others will treat you. I watch people get upset with others then watch how much they tell themselves that they aren’t worthy of something or they compare themselves to other people.

Lesson #2. How you treat yourself is how others treat you. Treat yourself with the respect you deserve. How you treat yourself is the role model for how others treat you.

Third, have you ever been around the kindest, gentlest soul? And, it was such a pleasure to be around an uplifting, positive person. What traits did that person exhibit? Maybe they were kind, open, listened, expressed vulnerability in a touching story.

Lesson #3: Be the role model for how others are treated.

As with the Golden Rule, Treat others, how you want to be treated. Treat yourself with the respect you deserve. Threat others with the respect they deserve. We don’t have to have the same beliefs to respect others as human beings.

Wishing you an abundant, joyful, and prosperous day!


Lora Polowczuk
Chief Energy Officer
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